I'm finding how essential daily meditation is for me. I feel so much calmer and at peace. When we sit and quiet our minds and just be still it's amazing what our spirit will whisper to us. I have a mind that is constantly going going going! I think about a million ideas, things I need to do, things I want to do, things I have to do and on and on and on so having time in the morning where I have a clean slate for a new day and the energy is cleaner and I've had some rest, it's a great time to gain clarity and look inside myself and just be still and quiet my mind from the to do list. This is where I also brain dump or maybe feeling dump. After meditating to some quiet music or a meditation cd ( Pandora is great for this where you can create a station for meditative music or a Deepak channel for free meditations) and reading my scriptures, I will sit down and converse with God on paper. I will write down all my feelings and ask questions and often answers come quickly and easily. It strengthens my intuition and I gain more confidence I. Finding my own answers within rather than looking to others or everyone else for my answers. There is nothing I hold back from telling Him. I can't hide anything from Him so why bother? It's freeing to unload all my feelings and confide in Him because then I can gain real perspective. This helps me then get clear on my intention for the day and know I can co-create my day with God. I also like to read from a self development book so I can do some self reflection and expand my knowledge and develop myself more. This morning routine has made ALL the difference in my relationship with God, myself, my family and my business.
Wow! As I look to the week ahead I am so excited because of what I get to create with it! Today is a new day and a clean slate to look at what will matter most to me and where I put most of my time.
There is a saying that goes " nothing changes if nothing changes" so look at where you feel like you keep spinning the hamster wheel and what you aren't willing to tolerate in your life anymore.
I was reflecting as I looked back at this past week at how much I people please sometimes rather than honoring myself. I did several things that made me realize that I put my needs on the back burner sometimes. One was a conversation I had on the phone with a distant relative who I'm not very close to. She is a very negative person and pushes people away very often because of her own inner pain. I had called to try to be of assistance at the request of her husband. After she basically told me she needed nothing from me and was fine which I was totally fine with she proceeded to invite us over for dinner on Sunday. I got a knot in my stomach and told her I would get back to her. I'll tell you more about this later.
In the past I have stayed in places with people as to not offend them even if it was extremely difficult for me. For example when someone is in a deep thought while they light up a cigarette. I am highly allergic and have asthma so you can see how much an awful situation this was for me. I stood there and did not protect my health first and suffered through the smoking and guess what? 2 hours later I was coughing my head off and downing the oils so I wouldn't get bronchitis.
As I reflected on this I wondered why I hadn't put my needs first. I could go through some stories in my life as to why and explain it away but deep down I know I get to change this. I get to start listening to me and my body's needs and honor myself more. I pay a price when I don't. It's about time I decided to matter to me. This week look at ways in which you could honor yourself more and create more win:wins than suffering.
In the end I chose not to go to the Sunday dinner invite. I decided it wasn't worth my time being miserable with a miserable person. I knew no joy would come from it because I had suffered through it before. So I choose me instead
We often go through life as adults looking at our "brokenness" and " what's wrong with me that I need to fix?" Or "what do I need to correct within myself to make me a better person" or "what do I need to overcome to finally be who i want to?!" Any of this sound familiar to you?
Do you know what I find? In my sessions when I work with clients I find that I get the honor and privilege of seeing someone's true essence and the core of who they are. Who are they without their story? I often whisper in their ear to remind them of the beautiful gifts God gave them and to help them see who they came here to be. I see their pain but I also see their beauty and their truth! When they let go of all the ugly lies that have been weighing them down they start to see it too!!
It's amazing as they evolve more into their truth and let go of the big fat lies. Their life starts to transform and inside they start to believe in themselves again. And there stands the beautiful soul in a new existence living an intentional purposeful life!!
So today instead of looking at your story or all the brokenness you think you have I want you to discus in the truth of who you are!! When you feed your truth more than you feed the lies and false believes, you start living your truth more!! You see the beauty of who you really are! And when you focus more on strengthening your truths instead of fixing yourself, change just magically starts happening.
Today I want you to go to at least 5 people you know and tell them you are doing an assignment and need them to list for you all the strengths they see in you. You will see some commonalities and this is a beautiful thing rather than focusing on your weaknesses. When you get your list: First of all, embrace it and don't push away the beauty others see in you. Second of all list the top three. And lastly look at ways to develop those even stronger and become them even more because those are your gifts and your truths and you are already on the road to sharing them with the world even more without having to develop a brand new gift. These gifts can be what strengthen you in your relationships and make you excel in your career. When you use your natural gifts, people feel it! It flows!
Place that list somewhere you can see it every day and embrace the beauty of your gifts and grow from then instead of feeling like you are at ground zero and starting from scratch!
I would love for you to list some of the qualities people shared with you so please comment below.