I have been in the healing arts for 13 years now and to this day I'm still in awe of what I see take place in the lives of my clients and those who come to me for sessions. Somewhere in them is this desire to finally push past all the limitations they can't seem to break through or haven't been able to maneuver through and they want to feel and experience life on the other side of this big obstacle that has had them stuck for quite some time now.
They have tried all kinds of things and yet something still holds them back like they have strings attached and tethered to their back that won't allow them to move forward no matter how hard they try to keep putting one foot in front of the other day in and day out.
They aren't usually people willing to invest in themselves because they've spent so much of their life giving their time, love, support and biggest efforts to everyone else until there's not much left to give to themselves so they take the scraps and decide to be grateful for even that.
Then they finally reach the point where they just can't do it anymore. Something's gotta give. The thought that there has to be a better way and maybe they haven't yet discovered how to get there enters their mind and they decide that investing in themselves might finally have some benefit to it because they just can't keep doing the same old thing anymore and getting the same results. It just isn't working to stay on that same worn out path anymore.
This is the point I get to meet them. In they walk into my life and we sit down and talk either in person or on the phone and I get a glimpse of this exquisite spirit who is covered in cobwebs and dust, which is hiding all their sparkle and shine. They have amnesia when it comes to remembering who they truly are. They have become numb to certain emotions and don't even recognize the magical parts of themselves anymore. They don't see the beauty others see in them because they have caved in to believing big fat lies rather than their powerful truths. Lies like " I'm not enough", " God doesn't bless me", "I'm not worth sticking around for", "Why would anyone want me?","I'm broken", "I'm a failure" and they find the category they they have determined they are a failure in-all sorts of them- failure as a parent, wife, husband, failure with money, relationships and on and on it goes.
So I tap into their truth. Really tap in deep to get to the core of who they are. We gently journey into the place within where they hold their beliefs and one by one we discard the lies that have fogged up their minds and soon the cobwebs fall off, the dust is swept away and they start to remember and see their own sparkle and shine underneath it all. Their heart light suddenly switches on and they catch a glimpse of their truths and all the sudden they start to have this awakening and a remembrance of who they truly are.
Their purpose shifts and healing takes place and an hour after they have walked into my life, they leave with hope in their eyes and a sense of purpose. The heaviness eases up and a beautiful feeling of lightness permeates their spirit. They feel like they can actually breathe again and though they may have the same responsibilities they had when they called me in the first place, the overwhelm is gone. Life holds the gift of hope again and they start to glimpse how life really is on the other side of being stuck and the great thing is they never once had to relive the thing that got them stuck in the first place. They learned how quickly healing could take place and how beautiful it feels to get unstuck and they wonder why they didn't do it sooner. Lesson learned, they move forward into a new existence and life takes on a whole new meaning as they continue to yank out all the weeds that have been choking their beautiful garden, seeds are planted and the rewards of taking this time for themselves reaps the benefits they have been seeking. Oh it's a beautiful thing! And to this day, I still stand in awe of it all. Because that's where my journey to healing began as well and I love sharing it with the world. It's a beautiful thing and so much more efficient than I ever imagined!
Throughout the last 9 months we have been in 37 different states, stayed in 64 different places and have interacted and met dozens of people along the way. When I embarked on this journey 9 months ago I was excited as I anticipated how I would explore places I had never before explored, check things off my bucket list, and live life in a way I had only imagined. I wanted to help people heal. I wanted to see America. What I didn't anticipate was what I was about to learn about America. I was surprised at what unfolded.
We left our home and all the comforts of it, sold, gave or threw away a large portion of our material things and belongings and ended up with a small storage unit packing in all that was left to our name. We purged and let go of "things" and decided we wanted to collect "experiences and memories" instead. We decided that for a year we were going to explore the country and travel all parts of it . We would open our hearts to all possibilities of what this journey would entail for us and our family and all the surprises along the way. It was scary and exciting at the same time. Not everything was planned, some of it was left to chance. So many unknowns, yet so many possibilities! I was about to live one of my biggest dreams yet!
I'll admit I lived in my own little bubble before this adventure and looking at our country at the time, I was discouraged and disheartened to see what our future looked like. The media's portrayal was not favorable. I don't know that it really ever has been. I used to do media spots for a non-profit I worked for and I knew firsthand how they twist a story to tell it their way in order to make it more appealing to the public as opposed to what the facts are. I wanted to know for myself what this great country was all about, what it really stood for and who the people of America really are.
People fascinate me. They always have. When you come in as the outsider not knowing anyone in the places you end up, you learn very quickly to strike up conversations with strangers because otherwise you know no one and it can get lonely. I love my husband and daughter but when you are around each other 24/7 you start to want to explore outside your little family circle, at least that's how I am. Strangers intrigue you. I am a total people watcher. I love talking with people and learning about their lives, their dreams, their stories, even their sorrows and most definitely their triumphs. The human spirit inspires me. I started reaching outside myself and asking questions and just getting to know people.
One thing I learned very quickly in striking up conversations with strangers is that we as human beings naturally seek to find our commonalities rather than our differences. We look to see what brings us together in a conversation as we share who we are. Go strike up a conversation with a stranger for yourself and see how quickly it happens. Someone seeks to find a commonality they can relate to within the other. It's a natural and beautiful thing. We like to find connection with others. For instance, we are from Texas and we love our state, being out of the state and a few states over, you get a little excited to see another Texas plate and in that small moment, you have an instant friend, a commonality, a connection. If we were in a Texas city somewhere at the same time, we never would have probably even given each other a second thought as strangers but when you end up at a gas station in Boston and you see a fellow Texan and you act like you have been friends forever. One little commonality can go a long way.
My husband is a die hard Cowboys fan and boy as soon as he spots one of those star logos on a car, he will go as far as driving up next to them and waving in an overly friendly way and give them a thumbs up though they have no idea why or he will strike up a conversation with a total stranger with a cowboys baseball cap on or a shirt because he loves that there is a commonality and something to bring them together. We also love finding fellow essential oil users, so when we find fellow oil users, we feel totally at home. :)
What I learned is that people still have the desire to live the American dream and are working to live it every day. I learned of people living their own dreams. I met a man who grew up baking with his grandfather in England, helped with a bakery there and now lives in the states and opened a cute little bakery with his wife. He is living the American Dream. He came to America to live that dream. We've met many who came to this country from foreign lands to build their own dream and live a new life.
In Florida, we sat down and conversed with a woman who was a recent widow and she shared with me her own year long adventure of traveling the country with her beloved husband that was no longer with her who had passed two years prior, it was a dream they lived together. She taught me that the experience I had embarked on was creating memories for me to one day hold onto when my loved ones might no longer be there. I met a woman who quit her successful career to open up a quaint little tea shop to create them disconnecting from their phones and reconnecting with each other, bridging gaps between generations. Her vision was that mothers and daughters, grandmothers and granddaughters would come together for tea time, relaxation and connection. I experienced this myself and loved every second of it. We all still want connection. We seek it and we seek to live our dreams.
I learned that people who are in their own pain still reach out to help others' in theirs. When my husband ended up in the hospital in Georgia due to blood poisoning just a few months into our trip, I got my first Uber experience. I was with my driver a total of 7 minutes and in that short amount of time, he became a messenger and a voice of hope. In our brief encounter he told me about recently having his own painful stay in the hospital as he was driving me to the hospital to see my husband and then shared with me a beautiful quote from the bible to hold onto letting me know I was being watched over. It was a tender mercy I needed in that very moment. Seven minutes and I felt what a beautiful and powerful human being this humble man was. During this time I had a beautiful woman reach out to me who was going through chemo treatments for breast cancer, offer up a place for us to stay if we needed during this trial, another offer us a warm home cooked meal and yet another offer to take our daughter for a day so that I could tend to my husband at the hospital and our daughter a respite. All three of these woman I had only met in person 2 days prior.
I learned that people still pray and pray a lot. I love this! Prayer is such a huge part of my life, I love that people ask others to pray for them and that it's still a tool we don't let go of. We needed it many times on our trip and I have seen many praying for others. I saw many instances of prayers offered up to heaven on behalf of many people we met and now love. I also learned that we as Americans still have a strong belief in God. Many still do. My heart burst with joy to see so many churches in some of the small towns we drove through. I didn't care what religion they were, what struck me was that there were still places to worship and focus on God.
I learned that people genuinely wanted to help us. We would learn tips, valuable information and people wanted to share with us all things about the areas they live in but also just help us in general. While on the subway in New York, a man overheard our conversation one day when one of one of the routes closed down because of problems and our planned out route was no longer an option. He stopped to tell us exactly what to do to get to our destination without us even asking. We had people offer up their own places to host a class for us to teach because they wanted to help us educate others on healing. They graciously hosted us and helped us share our message. People loved sharing the beauty of their cities with us and also their homes. We had several invites to stay in beautiful homes with home cooked meals and lots of love and friendship. We have made many new friends.
As we camped at the top of the Smokies, while taking an evening walk we happened upon a lovely group of retired couples who frequent that particular campsite every year and gather round the fire to share stories of their lives and catch up on the latest happenings in their lives. They warmly welcomed us into that little circle, offered us dinner and treated us like family. We enjoyed a glorious evening with them as we learned about some of their heartaches and triumphs in life, their many years of marriage and the love they still felt for each other, the companionship and the connection they still held dear. They taught us that in the end, after you have lived a long life, the most precious aspect of it all will be the connections you make with others, not the money, not the awards, but the connections and the memories will be what matters most.
I will continue to share some of theses stories with you in my blog because the lessons I've learned have been priceless.
We have seen many beautiful, amazing sights in America. Some have literally taken my breath away. I can't wait to share the beauty of all we have seen. Those memories have been priceless. America truly is beautiful!
I shared an earlier blog about how I hate watching the news. because all we see is the bad it seems. As I travel I do see a skewed view the media presents. I'm not ignorant or naive to the fact that there is a lot of pain, anger, anguish and real world problems but when it's shoved down your throat daily, you tend to lose hope that there really is any good in the world or the people in it. I'm here to tell you there is. I haven't lost hope, I have gained it. Who knew that checking off our bucket list would include meeting so many amazing people? What I have learned is that here in America, we are all still people, we still have dreams, we still want and seek connection, we still are in awe of God's beautiful creations and we still seek to find the commonalities that bring us together rather than the differences that tear us apart.
Little did I know that I would fall in love with America all over again, not because of it's natural beauty but because of the people!
The dream of traveling the country began after I saw the results I was getting from changing my thoughts. Dreams started to sprout within me and I knew that there were a million possibilities as to what I could create in my life.
One little known fact about me is that I hate watching the news. HATE IT! Nothing zaps my energy more as a “feeler” than to watch the news and having all the sorrow and pain and tragedy being displayed for us all to see. I actually relish good news and like celebrating people. TV is not my favorite thing and most of their years growing up my boys never had TV in our home. As a single mom, it wasn’t something that fit into our tight budget and it was low priority. There were many benefits to this besides saving money. The boys played outside and with each other rather than zoned out on video games and tv shows. They created a playhouse out back under the trees and got a lot of physical activity in. TV was only used to watch movies once in a while.
Soooo back to HATING the news….. One day as I was brainstorming with the boys and we were talking about travelling the country I asked them…. What if we went on a GOOD NEWS TOUR? In other words I wanted to look for the good news everywhere we went and to share it with the world! I wanted to celebrate people and their good news! I wanted to share with the world that there actually were many good things happening as opposed to all the bad we hear about on the news. I think media tries to create a skewed view of things and we buy into thinking that there really is so much hatred out there. I don't deny there is but it creates less of a feeling that there really is a lot of love out there as well. So a great way to get to know people was to ask them if they had any good news to share with the world. It was just a thought
One day as we were brain storming, I shared with the boys that I wanted to my dream was that we would have a good news tour! I wanted to travel the country and share the good news with the world. I hated watching the news. In fact to this day I still don’t watch it and haven’t for years. It is energy zapping to me to hear all the tragedy and negative things happening in the world. In fact while I was a single mom, for 8 years we didn’t watch tv. We only used it to watch movies. I wanted my kids to be outside and playing like I did as a kid instead of sitting and doing video games and watching tv all day. So I figured at the time, the best thing would be to travel the country, talk to people and find the good news and share it!
Years passed, we would discuss it once in a while. I held onto the dream and kept it tucked in my heart. The boys grew. They grew and they grew and they grew. Over time the boys got involved in school and all the extra curricular activities they excelled in. I wanted them to have those dreams fulfilled so I held off fulfilling mine. I got to the point where I became comfortable with the thought that even if I did it on my own when the boys left home, I would still travel the country one day. I knew the boys were getting to a place where they would be on their own adventures off at school or on missions or work so I began picturing myself getting into a car one day and just driving. Literally just driving off into the sunset without even a destination or thought as to where I would end up and when I felt like it I would stop where I wanted and explore the world myself. I had been single for 8 years and I was comfortable doing it on my own though the dream had always been to do with my “three stooges” as I lovingly called them. I was happily single and I was prepared to someday live that dream.
I even created a list of what I wanted in a husband
Enter Rick Diamond……….
Now that I was hooked I wanted to take it to the next level.
I made a list of 5 things I wanted in my life. I was dreaming big this time!! HUGE!!
I was living in my parents home at the time and to me, at the rate I was going I figured it would probably take me 2-3 years for us to get a place of our own. Number one on my list was I wanted a house of our own. This truly felt absolutely impossible to me at the time! IMPOSSIBLE! Did I stress that enough? I was barely paying all my bills at the time and to think I could afford that seemed so far out of reach. The thought was daunting. I sat down with my boys because I wanted them to be part of this whole dreaming and creating process too so I asked them for their input on what kind of house they wanted. I was dreaming, so I decided we were going to dream big and pull out all the stops. They had never lived in a two story home before so that was at the top of their list. They listed everything they wanted in a home:
The next thing I put on my list was that I wanted to feel happy again. Remember, at the time, I was still not in a great place emotionally and I thought my life was over. I was looking to heal from a painful divorce and I truly wanted to laugh again and feel happiness. I wanted to feel joy again.
Because of what I had experienced, the next thing to go on my list was that I wanted to be in a relationship where I felt honored and respected as a woman and valued for who I was. I wanted to feel connection and a deep sense of integrity and mutual respect.
I also put on my list that I wanted a career where I made a difference in people’s lives. I wanted a fulfilling career that made me feel alive and a contribution to the world around me. I wanted to feel purposeful in what I did.
The last thing on my list was just as huge, if not bigger than the 1st one on my list. The dvd talked so much about money that I decided I was going to put that I wanted 15,000!! I was seriously going for it!!
So this is what my list looked like:
Pretty far reaching right? Well I put my simple list above up on a bulletin board in my room and each day I looked at it I tried to envision what it would feel like to have it. I was planting seeds and didn’t even know it. My mindset and thoughts were drastically changing and every time I felt inspired, I took action. I was looking to create a new destiny for myself and my children. I started believing in myself and little by little my heart was starting to heal. I was letting go of the past that had held me back and I was looking to a new future and a new existence. As the months passed on I even decided one day to quit my job and pursue a whole new avenue of starting my own business. Doors of opportunity came my way. My confidence was growing. I was learning how to do things differently and I started daring bravely. Life was never going to be the same and I was no longer going to live life the way I used to. I learned HOW to finally create what I wanted and what I needed to do to get there. It was a whole new beginning and through some key shifts and changes I made, 10 months later I had EVERYTHING on my list!
As I was packing up to move our of my parents home, I noticed some papers had been put on top of my list and I actually hadn’t looked at it for a couple of months and to my amazement as I looked at my list, we were now moving into the very home the boys and I had described, down to a T! 2 weeks previous I had literally been offered a job with a non-profit organization that I didn’t even apply for! It was a job making a huge difference in the world. I was smiling! I felt happy again! Life was full of hope and possibilities!! I was in a wonderful relationship with an amazing guy who taught me to believe in myself again and who showed me what love really was. It was so healing to my soul. (we later parted as friends but I will be forever grateful for the pivotal person he became in my healing and belief in self) I didn’t get a 15,000 check. I got a 21,000 check!!! Thus the reason we were moving into a brand new home! It blew my mind as I read the list and realized that in only 10 months time I HAD IT ALL!! Life has never been the same!
That began a whole new existence for me and my children. The process I used was now what would shape everything I did in the future.
During the divorce I had worked as a substitute teacher for a school district and after leaving that job I started getting statements in the mail about a teacher’s retirement fund. I was confused as to why I was getting these statements with numbers and verbage I wasn’t too familiar with. Weeks after I started changing my mindset on money and expecting that it truly was coming my way and even expecting some would somehow come in the mail one day, I remember sitting in my parent’s front room and once again opening one of these teacher retirement statements. I had always disregarded them but this time I had the thought to turn the paper over and look on the back. To my surprise, at the bottom it showed a balance of $343 in an account somewhere. I had never thought to turn it over and here it was telling me that I had money! I called and verified that I did in fact have money in an account and cha ching! I soon had a check coming to me for that amount. This might not seem to significant but I it was a turning point for me in realizing what I was blocking out instead of allowing to come into my life and $343 was a fortune to me at the time!
As soon as that check came, guess what I did with it???? Oh to see the faces of those 3 young boys Christmas morning as they woke up to a Wii was absolutely priceless! My hope was growing but so was theirs! They all jumped for joy and said mom “it works! It really really works! I put this in my catalog of the universe! It works!!” Not only was I learning about what I could create in my life, I was teaching my children as well. It literally transformed our lives!
My first experiment worked! I was hooked! The next one was about to blow me mind!!
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